Is there anything worse than having children at home that are sick? Well, yes, there is – and that’s having a husband at home that is sick.
Recently, my hardworking and very tough hubby suffered a serious back injury, leaving him completely useless for… wait for it… a whole month! And while there were plenty of positives to the situation (having hubby home was great and the kids loved being able to see dad all day every day), there were plenty of not-so-enjoyable moments. But all negatives have a silver lining and the good news is I was able to come up with some helpful hints on keeping your cool when taking care of a sick partner.
1. Find Your Cool Zone
There are going to be times when you and hubby are going to lose your cool. During these blow-ups, it’s important to step back.
Everyone handles anger differently. Some will walk away. Some will take deep breaths. Some will find their happy place. Do whatever works for you. The last thing anyone needs is more tension than is already there.
2. Consider His Situation
While you may be stressed and tired of running around after the kids and bowing to your husband’s every command, take a step back and imagine how hubby is feeling.
Think about what it feels like to be sick or injured. He is probably concerned about work. He is probably feeling guilty about the situation. He is probably doing everything he can to focus on something other than the pain.
3. Blame the Pain
My husband turned into a growling irrational sergeant of negativity when he was injured. He easily snapped. He was miserable the entire time, and he was constantly picking on the little things I did. While it was hard not to club him with the laundry basket (which held the clothes I folded wrong), it is important to remind yourself that when you are in pain, life, simply put, sucks.
Everything sucks. And thus, my favourite phrase became “I know you’re in pain but…”. Pain can turn anyone into horrible monsters (remember labour?). But try to keep in mind that it’s the pain, not you, that is causing the barks.
4. Kids and Hubby First, Household Second
Routine goes out the window when someone in the house is sick or injured. This can be a hard thing to come to terms with, especially if you are a neat freak or organisation queen. We had a mattress in our living room floor for over a month with various pain killers, heating pads and other devices left all over the place. Dishes were dirty, laundry was piling up, and groceries were hard to shop for. While this lack of control can drive anyone to the brink of insanity, remember it is only temporary and as long as the kids and husband are content, the rest can wait.