Alrighty, folks. Time to drop some truth. As much as we might not want to admit it, we all get into a sex rut now and then.
Maybe we’re busy AF and exhausted — because, hello, raising kids is busy and exhausting. Or maybe we’ve been with the same partner for a long time, and we’ve kind of lost that spark and excitement we used to have during sexy time when we were younger (and less exhausted). Or maybe we can’t turn our mind off and have trouble getting in the mood, because we can’t stop thinking about the dishes that need to be done and how our legs need to be legs shaved. Maybe we’re single and just starting to dip our toes in the dating pool again.
Whatever the reason, sometimes when we fall into a sex rut and want to get our mojo back, we need to take things to the next level. Candlelight and baths just won’t do the trick. So if you’re looking for some unique ways to spice up your sex life, here are some tried and true methods. Trust me.
1. Tie one on. (Your partner, that is).
Calm down, you don’t have to get punished, or be whipped, spanked, or tickled with a feather just because you are tied down (unless you want to be, of course). Think of it as a way to try out some new positions, be submissive or dominant, or even better: You get to lie there, not do any work and have an orgasm. I mean, what choice do you have? You are tied down. With consent, of course. Always.
If you are in the mood to be a bit more wild and upright, you can purchase over-the-door restraints and assume the position while your partner is in the shower and give them the surprise of their life.
2. Two words: Male G-Spot.
Or is that three words? Who cares. The male G-spot is located on the prostate gland — the P-spot if you will — and it’s known for providing some killer orgasms. Massaging the P-spot is great on its own, but when paired with oral sex or intercourse, you guy just might think you are an angel sent from heaven. But before you go all in, you need to talk about it with your partner first. It will make the experience more exciting and pleasurable if your partner is aware, and consenting, before you go diving in. (And this should go without saying, but you probably want to keep those fingernails trimmed.)
3. Satisfy your sweet tooth.
If you happen to be a food lover (who the hell isn’t?), this is going to get good. I’m not talking about eating a salami sandwich while going at it doggie style — that’s just a choking hazard and not very sexy. But food or condiments that are spreadable, or can be drizzled over special places, can be absolutely tantalizing. Foods that work well include: caramel, the filling of a Cadbury creme egg, and whipped cream. Perhaps you are queso lover? Dive right in.
4. Say goodbye to the bedroom.
Instead of waiting until you are both in bed and ready to pass out, shake things up by having sex in a different place. The kitchen counter is a nice atmosphere to fill your donut with cream. And there’s nothing sexier than a clean and shiny countertop, am I right? I realize some people aren’t into getting a piece of ass in the same place they can get a piece of cake or chicken, but clearly I am not one of those people (see #3).
Maybe there’s a nice clearing in your back yard or you’ve always wanted to straddle your partner in the long chairs on the deck. Ask them to meet you outside, and slip into your favorite night gown with nothing underneath. Easy access is key and the excitement of getting it on outside will take your orgasm to the next level.
5. Get creative with selfies.
Nothing can get your genitals throbbing like a sexy message alerting you that you are desirable and wanted. Pair that with a picture of you getting out of the shower, in your favorite bra or trying out a new vibrator, and your partner will be speeding homeroom work.
Sexting is fun, can build excitement and, let’s face it, you can even do it while you are on the toilet if need be.
6. Break out the porn or erotica.
Need to get your juices flowing in exactly two minutes? Porn or reading erotica to each other, or solo, can make you hot and wanting your partner in a bad way. And if you’re really feeling free, you might even want to star in your own movie (just make sure to delete it before little hands grab your phone to play Angry Birds the next morning).
7. Rub each other down — but don’t go all the way.
Dare your partner to strip down with you, give you a massage, then let you return the favor without doing the deed. There’s something about a forbidden fruit that makes us want it more — kind of like when you are suffering through one of those juice cleanses and all you can think about is food. Okay, so it’s not really the same, but close.
8. Wake up already primed.
There’s a pretty pink alarm clock that does double-duty. By that I mean, it fits perfectly in your underwear and will wake you up by stimulating you in all the right places. Let the Little Rooster get your warmed up, then have your partner finish the job. Morning sex is the best — it’s unplanned, and the best way to start your day. (Partner optional.)
Everyone gets bored and sex can feel like a big problem in our relationship if we aren’t having it. It’s important to note we all have dry spells, but keeping things fresh can do wonders for your and your partner. So try sending a text, warm up the hot fudge, and get your hands on a good book. You never know what kind of fun you can have until you try.